No less special

I don't normally cite articles or even share my opinions on articles on my blog; mostly because I don't think anyone would care.  However, I recently read something in Glamour that I found sad.  Not infuriating, not joyous, but sad.  It was one very small part of a larger article - it was a multi-page spread of shoe statistics.  Buried in this spread was statistics of women who would wear flats vs. heels in various events.  It was all sorts of occasions, like a first day at work, first date, etc.
It listed, "first date" and gave a percentage of ladies in heels vs. flats; then it listed, "27th date with that same guy" and gave another percentage of ladies in heels vs. flats.  The percentage dropped approximately 15%.

Upon reading that, I was disheartened.  15% of the ladies interviewed for that question thought someone they barely new was worth "getting all done up for" than a person who they actually care about and had a real connection (assuming that you have those two criteria if you make it to the 27th date with a man).  I just doesn't make sense to me.  I don't see how you invest time and effort into a relationship with a person, but then not think they are special enough to warrant you wearing your "nice" shoes for them.

And I've been in new relationships and gone on first dates. I get that you want to lead with your best foot forward (har har). It's normal to want to impress new people in your life, or try to ensure they would like to at least consider staying in your life for that matter. I also think there is something to be said for still putting in some effort once you've been in a relationship for awhile. And I'm not trying to be archaic and say that women need to not let themselves go if they want to keep their man.  I'm really not. I'm just pointing out that someone who means something to you is still worth the effort.  I've been with my fiance for two and a half years now and I still think he's worth wearing heels for on a date; never mind I love wearing heels. I just still want to wow him like when we first started dating.  I know he won't love me any less in flats, I just want him to know that I still consider myself lucky.